Hey-o! My name is Melissa May-Dunn and I am a performance poet, slam-poetry competitor, youth and child-in-crisis worker, body love/fat-body-justice advocate and salty feminist sassmouth hailing from Norman, OK. Recently, I was selected from a rather large pool of eager women to compete i…
Hello Witch Sisters. Gorgeous Fat Family. Poets and Philanderers and People I love and love and love.
This is a fundraising campaign I created to help fund my trip to the Women of the World Poetry Slam Competition this year.
Here’s my site - give it a read and consider donating (there’s some sweet-ass rewards for your giving. If you can’t help (I make little monies, and I understand) PLEASE share it, far and wide as you can, to all women and body love supporters. Big sparkly hearts to you all.
Reblog. Because I’m nothing if not persistent.
Update: I’m only 225 dollars away from my goal. This money, originally set to get me to the women of the world poetry slam in two weeks, has become even more important after the unexpected death of my mother and shouldering the financial burden of her final expenses.
At this competition, I’m spreading the sparkle of gorgeous fat/feminist/mentally ill bodies and all of the glorious and necessary things they give to the world.
If you can’t donate, please reblog and get the word out. My campaign ends Friday and I am so, so close.
The first ever Body Love Conference is coming to Tucson, Arizona in April. We need all of the donations we can in order to have all of these amazing keynote speakers addressing fat topics such as Tess Munster, Louise Green, and other speakers who focus on post-pregnant bodies such as Jade Beal. Its going to be an amazing event and the first of its kind. Help make this happen! Plus check out the incentives!
“There is no special love exclusively reserved for romantic partners. Genuine love is the foundation of our engagement with ourselves, with family, with friends, with partners, with everyone we choose to love. While we will necessarily behave differently depending on the nature of a relationship , or have varying degrees of commitment, the values that inform our behavior, when rooted in a love ethic, are always the same for any interaction.”—
hi denise-i'm coming to you because you're such a light/so positive, but also so aware of your humanness. lately I'm struggling w/feeling like i don't know what i want to do with my life. i do know, but i worry because I'm 25 and my friends are married with children and i don't want those things. i feel like i should. my friends have jobs that pay well. i get odd/ends jobs to pay for the thing i really love to do. how do you keep yourself from comparing your life to the lives of others people?
Thank you for the kind words. Please know your sweetness landed on a very tender hearted day which is to say it could not have come at a better time so again thank you. I am in no position to explain how to not compare myself, my life or the varying points of my identity to others because it is a practice I am constantly trying to challenge and therefor still engage. We are enculturated with self-judgment in juxtaposition with the judgment of others as a tool for growth, shame, and control from such a remarkably young age. Given that cultural definitive I’d count your awareness as a blessing. In reading your message it seems you are positioned at a remarkable crossroads. Those around you have chosen the path we have all been raised to believe as our collective “should” ie… financially sustainable career, marriage, procreation, “the American Dream”. Whereas you are clear, living in a way that brings you joy is a different path completely! How exciting is that?!?!?!? The greatest advice I can give you is
Know you are far from alone. There is a vast community of dreamers, radicals, lovers, and those who aspire to a life far more nuanced than the hetero normative mechanized path you made reference to in your message. SO WELCOME<3
bell hooks wrote “the space of our lack is also the space of possibility” Make new friends. Seek likeminded community. In saying that I am not saying dismiss those who currently hold real estate in your heart. Just recognize that in order to thrive you must surround yourself with those who aspire to living in a way that is comparable to your deepest desires.
Know what grounds you and keep it close.
I have lived in 27homes, in 8 different cities, in 4 different states, and have spent years of my life on the road. In that time there have been so many lifetimes, friends, and family who have come and gone. Through the years I have learned I need a home to come back to, I need a collection of trinkets and photos to remind me of where I come from, I need community to remind me where I am going and that I am in fact possible. I need delicious food in my belly and most of all I need to always remember everything I do is rooted in love.
I hope this has been helpful. Good luck on your new turn. May the magic come in abundance. May the most unexpected desire come to light.
“I want to live the rest of my life, however long or short, with as much sweetness as I can decently manage, loving all the people I love, and doing as much as I can of the work I still have to do. I am going to write fire until it comes out of my ears, my eyes, my noseholes—everywhere. Until it’s every breath I breathe. I’m going to go out like a fucking meteor!”—Audre Lorde
If you're so adamant about promoting body acceptance, how come you only post pictures of fat women calling them beautiful and no fat men?
That’s an important and valid question. Truthfully my exploration is about understanding body positivity as a queer, working class, large bodied woman. There are lots of amazing organizations working to support and explore sizism and positivity for all body representations like The Body is Not an Apology. However I am not an organization, I am an individual person and artist therefore my work represent my personal lens and how it relates to the larger social culture.
If you feel male bodied representation (or any representation) is missing in body positive movements I highly encourage you to contact The Body is Not an Apology and help the community engage the lens it is missing.
“Let us laugh this night away
And I will fuck you like you were a prayer
That could save me by having my mouth around you
And I will hold you afterwards
like you were the pulpit and I was the sky
And this love that danced between that hardness
Was a telephone line of holiness
That those two things spoke through
Take me into your heart like I was a saint
And you were a face of forgiveness
Blooming in a valley destined to sink further
Be a river with me
Be the storm
A bend in the path
The front porch
The heat in the south
Be a boot full of banjo strings
A fistful of written songs
A mouthful of chocolate dust”—Anis Mojgani “Milos” (via blessyourprops)